The Dating After Divorce Bumble Review
Quick Bumble Overview
So, you want to know what all the buzz is about Bumble?
Think of the dating app Bumble as the female-friendly version of Tinder. Bumble was created by a woman who formerly worked at Tinder, and had over 100 million users in 2020. It’s the second most popular dating app, coming in right behind Tinder.
Bumble requires the female user (w/ heterosexual settings) to message the men first. This allows women to be more selective in who they are receiving messages from and overcomes the challenge of women being inundated with too many messages, becoming overwhelmed, and then deleting the dating app altogether.
Once two people “swipe right” on each other, the woman initiates the conversation. Then the man then has 24 hours to respond before the connection expires. This limited response time gives a little nudge for initiative on both sides.
Like Tinder, Bumble is a swipe app with a game-like interaction. Once you swipe and match with another person, you get that little ego boost when you see “IT’S A MATCH”. This app is addictive by design — you can easily find yourself swiping aimlessly while sitting on the toilet.
Don’t be coy. I do it too.
Bumble Pros:
Bumble requires users to verify themselves by striking a specific pose for a picture, which is an added safety factor. (Bye, bye catfish!)
Women have to make the first move and start the conversation (for heterosexual users). This allows women to feel more in control of who is messaging them.
Bumble has 3 features depending on what you’re looking for: Date, Bizz, or BFF.
Boost, match extension, incognito, and travel mode are a few of Bumble’s pro features that are available.
Bumble has prompts that help you see if you and a person have similar interests/life goals BEFORE you match (i.e.: looking for a relationship, something casual, have children & don’t want more, etc.).
Bumble allows you to send photos, GIFs, and emojis, unlike some other dating apps. (Friendly reminder - no one wants the 🍆 pics)
Bumble Cons:
Matches are lost after 24 hours of no communication, so if you’re a busy person you might be missing matches.
Men can’t send the first message on Bumble. Sorry fellas, if you’ve got some great icebreakers in your arsenal, you won’t get a chance to use them until later.
The price for paid features on Bumble is a bit higher than similar swipe apps.
You can only swipe on 25 matches per day for free users.
Bumble does not offer much to the transgender or nonbinary communities when it comes to profile options.
Bumble for Those Dating After Divorce
Bumble is one of the top three dating apps I use to make connections for my clients. It’s been a consistent source for quality potential matches. Full disclosure - I met my fiancé on Bumble years ago, so I'm a bit biased.
Bumble users between the ages of 30 - 49 make up around 30% of Bumble accounts. I’ve successfully matched clients in their 60s using the app as well.
Step 1: Transitioning From “We” Back To “Me”.
Your divorce is final and you’re ready to start your next chapter! Now is the time to go from “we” back to “me”, exploring who you really are and what you want this next chapter of your life to look like. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but someone’s got to be. Now is NOT a time for dating apps!
Jumping straight into using a dating app like Bumble wouldn’t be fair to yourself (or the other person) in the long run. I suggest resisting this urge to get out there right away, as it can cause a lot of emotional damage. Instead, focus on healing yourself. Here is a free reflection journal I recommend to anyone dating after divorce.
Step 2: You’re Ready To Casually Date.
As I previously mentioned, a feature I love about this app is the ability to qualify (or disqualify) potential dates before you meet, or even chat with them! Bumble has prompts for its users to state things like what they're looking for - whether that be something casual or a relationship. This can be quite helpful if you’re not open to casual hookups.
Step 3: You’re Ready For A Relationship.
We all know that choosing your partner is one of the most crucial decisions you make in life. If you’ve been through a divorce you know what repercussions can come with picking the wrong person.
You live and you learn, right?
Bumble is a great app to facilitate potential relationships. That being said, not everyone you meet on the app will be looking for the same thing as you. Dating online can be challenging. This is why leading with honesty and transparency is the best way to convey what you’re looking for both for yourself and your potential partner.
Even new relationships can get complicated. When you find yourself getting back out there, be sure to go into this new chapter with a positive mindset or dating will feel like a second job. You got this!
Final Thoughts
As with most things in life, you get what you pay for. In my opinion, Bumble tends to have a better return for users who are using their paid features. My favorite aspect of the premium subscription is the ability to see your “Beeline”. This allows you to see who has liked your profile before you’ve seen theirs. It saves a ton of time and you can just go through the list and match with who you’re interested in, instead of spending time swiping.
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As always, be upfront with your intentions, stay safe & most importantly HAVE FUN!
