5 Steps to Flirting IRL
Have you found yourself glancing at that attractive person across the bar, wishing you could effortlessly strike up a conversation?
We've all been there—the sweaty palms, the racing heartbeat, and the endless "what-ifs" running through our minds.
Let's face it: dating "in the wild" can be intimidating. Approaching that hot single (you did check their left hand for a ring - right?) at the gym or coffee shop requires a dash of confidence and a sprinkle of courage.
Luckily you have your favorite dating coach and matchmaker here to share the secrets to flirting success that will leave you ready to conquer the dating scene!
Step 1: A Warm Smile Speaks Volumes
The power of a genuine smile is unparalleled when it comes to initiating conversations. Approach the next attractive single you see with a warm and friendly smile— a universal symbol of approachability and openness. By exuding positivity and warmth, you create an inviting atmosphere that encourages others to engage with you.
Step 2: The Art of Complimenting
My clients (especially my female clients) hear this from me ALL of the time. Compliments possess the extraordinary ability to ignite conversations when offered sincerely and specifically. Take note of something remarkable or unique about the person and express your admiration in a thoughtful and genuine manner. Rather than generic flattery, be specific and highlight their individuality. This demonstrates your attentiveness to detail and genuine interest in discovering who they truly are.
Step 3: Discover Common Ground
Unveiling shared interests is akin to discovering a treasure trove of conversation starters. Observe your surroundings and seek hints about the person's passions—perhaps a book they're reading, a hobby they enjoy, or an accessory that reflects their interests. Use these commonalities as hooks to break the ice and establish a connection. Authentic curiosity and an eagerness to learn more will pave the way for engaging conversations.
Step 4: Unlocking Engaging Conversations with Open-Ended Questions
Asking open-ended questions acts as a guaranteed method to keep conversations flowing seamlessly. Instead of posing simple yes-or-no queries, delve into their experiences, opinions, or aspirations. This opens up a world of possibilities for engaging discussions, enabling you to explore shared values, experiences, and passions. Active listening and responding with genuine interest create a safe space for both of you to connect and share.
Step 5: The Closer - Sealing the Connection with Confidence!
As your conversation comes to an end, it's time to make your move. If it's unlikely that you'll bump into each other again, try this simple and engaging approach:
"Hey [their name], it’s been nice meeting you. Would you be open to exchanging phone numbers? We could [insert activity you talked about earlier]."
Remember, the worst they can say is no.
Embrace the moment, trust in your unique qualities, and seize the opportunity to take your connection to the next level. By putting yourself out there with confidence, you open the door to incredible possibilities.
