Why Should I Work With A Matchmaker?
I was on a call recently and a woman said to me, “I haven’t been on a date since my divorce was finalized in 2016.” She paused and said… “Oh, I was expecting you to gasp.”
My reaction – “Nope! You name it and I’ve most likely heard it!”
We all have our things.
We have areas of our lives where we've busted our asses to make things as close to perfect as possible – how we’ve raised our kids (most days), how well we perform our jobs, how well we transitioned from being married for a decade (+) to doing it on our own.
Yet, when it comes to dating we feel a bit lost.
This is why I celebrate every time someone takes their first call with me. It’s a big first step that takes strength, dedication, and bravery.
Before we meet I always like to ask, “What is the biggest challenge in your dating life right now?”
Here are some of the ways people have responded before booking a consultation call with me:
Insecurities, time, sex.
Not having enough time to meet women.
Finding potential partners who are looking for a relationship, not just a casual encounter.
Better matches, learning how to filter, avoiding catfish, having a meaningful relationship
Finding a match after divorce.
I would like to actually go on a date! Being 55 men my age are difficult to find as they want someone younger!
I get too many matches on dating apps. I feel overwhelmed and then delete them.
Figuring out if it's the right time and finding better quality matches.
A common misconception about people who use a matchmaker is that they can’t get a date themselves. After working with dozens of singles over the past few years I can count on one hand the people who came to me because they couldn’t “find a date themselves”.
The reason most people hire a matchmaker is usually somewhere between not having enough time to swipe/vet matches (usually takes 10-15 hours a week) and not finding quality matches on dating apps.
Here are a few different reasons why people have come to work with me in the past:
They’d had no luck online dating.
They had kids later in life and it was hard to find someone who wanted to be a new step-parent to younger kids at 50.
Their biological clock was ticking.
They were very conservative in a very liberal state (& vice versa).
They practiced a religion that others didn’t consider to be mainstream.
They kept dating toxic people.
They had a high-profile career, which didn’t allow them to be on dating apps.
What is something you do differently than other matchmakers?
I try to encourage my clients to get out of their comfort zones (and sometimes out of their own way). This can include everything from me picking out different outfits for them, planning engaging dates, sending them out with different types of people just outside of their “ideal match”, and even to speed dating events to get them out there.
How does the process work?
You apply for a matchmaking profile.
Book a consultation with Jade.
Follow up Zoom call to discuss details.
After several in-depth conversations, we'll develop your specific preferences for your ideal partner.
You have a professional photoshoot for killer pictures to share w/ dates.
I'll work my database and matchmaking network, interviewing and vetting potential matches to ensure you two are aligned on life goals, core values, dealbreakers, etc.
I present you with matches as they come.
You accept or decline potential matches accordingly.
You go on dates! :)
Post date feedback to find out what is working and what isn’t.
Second, third, fourth dates…
Here’s a part of my post date feedback from a matchmaking client:
Is this the feedback I get every single date I send clients on?
Hell no. I’m human. I have a great intuition, but even with experience, sometimes I get it wrong. Sometimes clients realize they don’t like something/someone until they meet them in person and that’s okay!
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