How To Make Dating Less Awkward & More Fun
First dates can be notoriously awkward, but with the right strategies, you can transform them into enjoyable experiences.
As a dating coach and matchmaker, I've learned how to navigate those initial encounters and turn nervousness into confidence.
Here are 6 easy strategies to make your first dates after divorce less awkward and more fun:
1. Be Prepared:
Plan conversation topics to avoid awkward silences. A few suggestions include; asking about family (e.g. “Do you have any siblings?”), their occupation (e.g. “Did you go to school for what you currently do?”), activities (e.g. “How do you like to spend your free time when you’re not working?”), and dreams (e.g. “Where is your dream vacation? What will you do when you get there?”).
Lastly, have an exciting story ready to engage your date and make connections.
2. Be Yourself:
On your next date, put your best self forward while staying true to who you are. Pretending to be someone else leads to awkwardness. Embrace your true interests and values. If there's a mismatch with your date, it's better to know early on.
3. Be Present:
Avoid dwelling on the past or fantasizing about the future. Being fully present in the moment allows for genuine connections. Engage in the conversation and show genuine interest in your date instead of waiting for your turn to speak.
4. Own Awkward Moments:
Embrace your human side because, well, sh*t happens. When faced with awkward moments, acknowledge and own them with a sense of humor. Laughing together releases tension and showcases your ability to handle unexpected situations - a quality that can be quite attractive. Don't be afraid to find humor in mishaps or embarrassing moments. Embracing the awkwardness can actually make the date more memorable and enjoyable.
5. Remember Nervousness is Normal:
Embrace the fact that both you and your date may experience nervousness. Recognizing this allows for empathy and the creation of a relaxed atmosphere. Encourage your date to open up and share their thoughts and feelings by extending an invitation with a simple question like, "What about you?" after sharing something about yourself. This promotes a comfortable space for genuine conversation and connection.
6. Plan to have fun before the date:
Approach your next first date with a mindset of optimism and curiosity. Let go of the pressure of finding love immediately. Instead, focus on enjoying the experience, sharing laughter, and flirting. By putting less pressure on your next date being “the one”, you create the space for genuine connections to flourish and memorable moments to be made.
Remember, embarking on first dates after divorce doesn't have to be a daunting experience.
By implementing these strategies, you can transform awkwardness into enjoyable moments and forge meaningful connections.
